Using Herbs in Wiccan Love Magic: Rose, Lavender, and Jasmine
Love magic is one of the oldest and most universal branches of folk and witchcraft traditions.
Within a Wiccan ethical framework, love work focuses on attraction, self-love, harmony, and deepening existing bonds rather than coercing another’s free will.
Three herbs that appear across cultures for their powerful love correspondences are rose, lavender, and jasmine.
Below you’ll find practical correspondences, ritual uses, simple recipes, and ethical guidance for working with these plants.
Why these three herbs?
Each herb carries a distinct energetic signature. When combined thoughtfully, they create a balanced love practice.
Understanding the qualities of each herb lets you choose how to use them:
Rose — the heart’s opening
Rose (petals or essential oil) is the archetypal love herb — associated with the heart, beauty, passion, and compassion.
It opens the emotional center, heals heartache, and invites romantic or sacred love to flourish.
Red roses emphasize passion and romance; pink roses lean toward tenderness, affection and long-term love; white roses relate to purity, spiritual love, and new beginnings.
Lavender — peace and self-love
Lavender soothes anxiety, calms the mind, and supports healthy boundaries.
In love magic it is commonly used to attract peaceful relationships, ease nervousness before approaching someone, and deepen self-love and acceptance.
Lavender’s energy helps love mature from impulse into steady care.
Jasmine — attraction and sensuality
Jasmine is prized for its rich, narcotic scent and its reputation for drawing lovers and enhancing sensuality.
It works on magnetism, confidence, and the enhancement of romantic charisma.
Jasmine also stimulates intuition, making it useful when you want to sense whether a potential match is aligned with your highest good.
Ethical foundations: consent and intention
Important: In Wiccan practice, ethical love magic honors free will.
Do not use herbs or spells to force someone to feel or act against their will. Instead, focus on:
- Attracting opportunities and alignment rather than controlling outcomes.
- Enhancing your own attractiveness, confidence, and healing.
- Strengthening consent, communication, and mutual wellbeing in existing relationships.
Working safely with herbs
When using herbs in baths, teas, or skin applications, be mindful of allergies and interactions.
Some essential oils (including concentrated jasmine and rose oils) can irritate sensitive skin—always dilute in a carrier oil and do a patch test.
If you have medical conditions or are pregnant, consult a healthcare professional before internal use.
Practical correspondences
Here’s a quick reference you can use when planning rituals:
- Rose: Planet — Venus; color — red/pink/white; chakras — heart; season — late spring/summer.
- Lavender: Planet — Mercury/Venus (calming); color — purple/lavender; chakras — crown/third-eye/heart (calming influence); season — summer.
- Jasmine: Planet — Venus; color — white/gold; chakras — heart and throat; season — summer nights.
Simple rituals and recipes
Below are accessible ways to use rose, lavender, and jasmine in love magic. Each is easy to adapt for solitary practice or group ritual.
Sachet for attraction (pocket charm)
Ingredients
- 1 tbsp dried rose petals (pink or red)
- 1 tsp dried jasmine
- 1 tsp dried lavender
- Small piece of cloth, ribbon, and a pinch of sugar or a tiny crystal like rose quartz (optional)
Method
- Place the herbs in the center of the cloth. Add the crystal if using.
- Fold the cloth into a small pouch and tie with the ribbon.
- Hold the sachet and visualize the kind of loving connection you want — focus on feelings (warmth, respect, mutual joy) rather than a specific person.
- Anoint the ribbon lightly with a diluted rose or jasmine oil (optional) and carry the sachet with you or place it under your pillow.
Self-love bath
Ingredients
- Handful of rose petals
- 1–2 tsp dried lavender
- Few jasmine blossoms or a drop of jasmine oil (very diluted)
- Sea salt (1/4–1/2 cup) or Epsom salts
Method
- Tie the dried herbs in a muslin bag or place them directly in the bath (you can strain them later).
- Add the salts as an offering to the water and soak for 15–25 minutes.
- Visualize releasing shame and welcoming compassionate, steady love toward yourself.
- When finished, stand quietly and set an intention aloud: “I open my heart to love that honors me.”
Candle dressing for courting or deepening relationship
Ingredients
- Small pink or red candle (for romance) or white candle (for purity and blessing)
- Ground rose petals or rose powder, a little dried lavender, and a flake of jasmine if available
- Olive oil or a carrier oil for anointing
Method
- Anoint the candle from base to wick with the oil while focusing on your intention.
- Roll the candle in the herb mixture or sprinkle the herbs around its base (do not block flame safety).
- Light the candle in a safe space. Speak your intention clearly and simply — for example: “May honest attraction and gentle understanding come my way.”
- Let the candle burn safely for a short while (never leave unattended). Extinguish with gratitude.
Attraction tea (internal use — caution)
If you plan to drink an herbal infusion, only use high-quality food-grade herbs and be sure you are not allergic. This recipe is gentle and meant to support calm confidence.
Ingredients
- 1 tsp dried rose petals
- 1 tsp dried lavender
- 1/2 tsp dried jasmine
- 1 cup hot water
Method
- Combine herbs in a teapot or infuser. Pour hot (not boiling) water over them and steep 5–7 minutes.
- Strain and sip mindfully, visualizing self-assurance and openness.
- Do not consume if you are pregnant, nursing, or have known sensitivities without medical advice.
Layering and timing
Combining herbs in one charm or ritual is effective because their energies complement one another:
- Rose opens the heart and clarifies the feeling you seek.
- Lavender calms fear and supports healthy boundaries.
- Jasmine heightens magnetic presence and intuition.
Perform your work on days or lunar phases that match your intention: Venereal days (Friday), evening workings with jasmine, and waxing moon phases for attraction. But the strongest element is the clarity and ethics of your intent.
Closing and reflection
Herbs are allies — living, fragrant reminders of the natural cycles of attraction, growth, and healing.
Use rose, lavender, and jasmine to nurture the conditions for loving connections rather than to command them.
When rituals are done with consent, care, and grounded intent, they become tools for transformation: they soften fear, strengthen boundaries, and open the heart to receive and give love.
Aftercare
After working a spell, do follow-up practical steps: communicate honestly with prospective partners, cultivate mutual interests, and look after your emotional wellbeing.
Magical practice works best when paired with action in the mundane world.
Final note
If you’re new to herbal magic, start simple: a sachet or a self-love bath can teach you how these herbs affect your mood and intentions.
Keep a small journal of what you use, when you use it, and how you feel afterward — patterns will emerge and deepen your practice.
May your practice be guided by kindness, mutual respect, and the steady warmth of an open heart.
